The picture on the canvas

Sitting here, at my desk in my room, I was thinking of recent events and realized I have just been taught something. I had to face palm when realizing this NOW even though it seems to fundamentally simple. Let me explain. Recently a friend of mine has been interested in dating another friend of mine. She has been trying to drop hints that she wants him to start pursuing her more often and actually do something (since he said he wanted to get to know her better but has not exactly presented situations himself to do such but she has). Well she has been giving me her side of the story, their talks, how she explained to him that she wants him to try actually doing something and so on. That was going well till I sort of realized something when I decided I was going to ask some questions. I never heard his side of it at all. I didn't know what he was thinking only her, and the canvas that the picture was being painted on became bigger and I notices the picture was missing parts.

Well I then was thinking of a time back in my junior year when a friend of mine called me in tears about her boyfriend breaking up with her (the previous day they had talked and it seemed everything was okay) and she explained what happened. I was angry the whole day that this guy would hurt her like that. Then my brain went off in a random direction in my thought process and said "I wonder what made him break up with her anyway?" Then it hit me, I never heard his side of the story. Now I seem like the jerk for not getting both sides.

Yeah so now the ghost of past situations are coming up and i wonder if i gave the right advice, said the right thing to the person. I played favorites and I wonder if I did the right thing. So now that I realize this I need to try and practice this, getting both sides of the story, even if its a heck of a lot harder and more "interesting". I suppose its also another lesson to teach the kiddies in the future. Look to both sides, because if you're looking at only one part, you may be missing a big portion of the picture.